Good thoughts. I think many people have trouble showing vulnerability, and that means all genders. It’s all in how a person is raised, who they take as a partner, and the people with whom they surround themselves. If people surround themselves with comfort and acceptance, they feel safe sharing their feelings as well as the feelings of other people.
This is a great article, I'm glad you persevered and there was a positive outcome to this. What you have written is very valuable for both men and women, especially as to how they relate to each other. I think that when people are hurting, for whatever reason, they often react as if they are being attacked even if someone is being kind to them. It seems to take a while to get through defences sometimes, when all that you are trying to do is show that you care. ( I think this is true of all relationships and human interactions, not just partnerships.
Thanks for your comment! Couldn't agree more. The curious thing is I'm still getting people commenting on that thread over a week later. Both in support and in criticism of what I wrote. It's getting people talking which is always great! And like the 4 Agreements by Don Ruiz say, I don't take it personally. I welcome it in and observe and learn. Curious that those who don't agree mainly were rude. That tells me there's a lot of unresolved trauma and triggering happening. Others had a more balanced view and actually taught me stuff about what it's like for a man in many relationships. So it's all good!
Good thoughts. I think many people have trouble showing vulnerability, and that means all genders. It’s all in how a person is raised, who they take as a partner, and the people with whom they surround themselves. If people surround themselves with comfort and acceptance, they feel safe sharing their feelings as well as the feelings of other people.
This is a great article, I'm glad you persevered and there was a positive outcome to this. What you have written is very valuable for both men and women, especially as to how they relate to each other. I think that when people are hurting, for whatever reason, they often react as if they are being attacked even if someone is being kind to them. It seems to take a while to get through defences sometimes, when all that you are trying to do is show that you care. ( I think this is true of all relationships and human interactions, not just partnerships.
Thanks for your comment! Couldn't agree more. The curious thing is I'm still getting people commenting on that thread over a week later. Both in support and in criticism of what I wrote. It's getting people talking which is always great! And like the 4 Agreements by Don Ruiz say, I don't take it personally. I welcome it in and observe and learn. Curious that those who don't agree mainly were rude. That tells me there's a lot of unresolved trauma and triggering happening. Others had a more balanced view and actually taught me stuff about what it's like for a man in many relationships. So it's all good!